WIN/WIN Guidelines

1. Cool off

Take time for cooling off is needed. Find alternative ways to express anger such as counting to 10, taking some deep breathes, etc...

2. Use "I message"

Each person states their feelings and the problem as they see it using "I messages." No blaming, no interrupting, no name calling. Example, " I felt hurt when you said you didn't like my jacket."

3. Say back

Each person states the problem as the other person sees it.

4. Take responsibility

Each person says how they are responsible for the problem.

5. Brainstorm solutions

Brainstorm solutions together and choose a solution that satisfies both parties - a Win/Win solution.

6. Affirm/forgive/thank each other

Affirm, forgive, or thank your partner.

 

Helpful Website for helping children manage conflicts, anger, and have more peaceful relationships: http://learningpeace.com/